Insecurities and Doubts Getting the Best of You?

Posted by spiritdt@comcast.net on Sep 18, 2013 in LGBT community | Comments Off on Insecurities and Doubts Getting the Best of You?

The feeling of not being “good enough” permeates the LGBT community in much the same way that it does the heterosexual community. I have noticed over the years that coming out to ones friends and family is an important first step to self acceptance ,but within the LGBT community, there are other obstacles to overcome.

Judgement from others around physical attractiveness and socioeconomic status can create insecurities that lead to social isolation. Many a client within this community have expressed a feeling that they are not part of the “in crowd”. They are usually referring to the imagined” A List Gays” that seem to have it all.

Many within the LGBT community have faced the same type of insensitivity that heterosexuals have experienced. The feeling of being on the outside looking in can exist even after one finally accepts his or hers sexual preference. The comparison game runs rampant. Am I hot enough?, Do I have a nice apartment?, Do I have enough money to attract the right man?. Do I have the right friends?. One would think that since most of the LGBT community have suffered so much discrimination, there would be more sensitivity around these issues. But sadly this is not the case.

If you feel or have felt this way you are not alone. The emotional pain of feeling rejected can lead to serious reflection on what is truly important to your life, learning to love your uniqueness, and create a life of purpose and meaning. To love ourselves simply for our existence and identify with our hearts rather than our biceps can be a valuable first step. Therapy can help you along this journey by healing where these ideas and beliefs are rooted, helping you love yourself, and create a more authentic life.